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An Unexpected Place to Meet Men!
July 2nd, 2009Okay, I learned something yesterday. If you want to meet men and have some fun, a great place to go is the place you’d least expect to meet some (straight ones that is) - A classy gay bar.
Yesterday I had a “date” with my gay friend, Greg. I wanted to go to this very hetero bar to do a little flirting. He wanted to go to a quiet gay bar where we could talk and catch up. “I need to be around more straight men, though.” I said. “Well I need to be around more gay men. I spent the entire weekend going to straight parties with straight friends.” He said. We ended up going to the gay place.
We walked in to this open aired, New Yorkish (with a dash of LA) restaurant and saddled up to the bar only to find one seat available. These very nice guys on the end offered one of their seats. I struck up a conversation with one of them. He was handsome, very masculine and sort of exotic looking. I told him how I was on a date with my gay “boyfriend” and that I already had a gay “husband.”
“I need to meet some men on my team. I’d love to meet a pitcher.” (I thought I was so clever). He laughed with that “I understand” look. I went on and on about the plight of the single woman looking for a little romance and how I love my gay friends but sometimes I need to be around more straight men. He just kept smiling. And then… started flirting!
Suddenly I thought….maybe he isn’t gay! The more I thought about it, the more I realized, I was talking to a straight man whom I thought was gay about being a straight woman in this all gay bar. And he was very charming. What do I do? Perfect. My gay boyfriend, Greg, was a straight men expert due to proximity. (He does business with them and several are friends). So, I discreetly checked in with him. “Straight. Definitely YOUR team.” Greg knew instantly.
My new straight male acquaintance gave me his card on the way out wanting to keep in touch telling me I looked like Judy Garland, “when she was MUCH younger.” He was making points.
As Greg and I headed back home, I checked my phone messages, and my straight friend from the gay bar, called me to say how much he enjoyed meeting us and hopes to stay in touch.
So here are some tips to meeting men:
1. Pick the least expected places ensuring to have those unexpected experiences (After all, they do say these things happen when we least expect it).
2. Have a gay boyfriend and/or a gay husband. They can be marvelous wing men. Plus key advisors in romance (if you pick the right ones who are straight men experts).
3. Put yourself in free-to-be-yourself situations to practice being YOU! (I was totally myself in that bar, unguarded, because I thought the guy was gay)
-Tracy Pattin
What Makes YOU Sexy?
July 1st, 2009I’ve been thinking about the question, What makes us sexy?” Sexy Living Society is featuring a monthly Sexy Woman and Sexy Man. This month? I get to be the “Sexy Woman.”
Along with my picture I answer the question, “What makes you sexy?” To me, it really is an inside job. We can go outside of ourselves to get sexy with lingerie, perfume, waxing (everything!) age defying makeup, Botox, jewelry and all the many trappings to make us alluring. BUT, I’ve found, if we do the things that make us feel confident and fulfilled, sexy just jumps on board of our being.
Check out Sexy Living Society for my answer.
-Tracy Pattin
Want Great Skin Over 40? (and beyond)
June 28th, 2009Sexy Living Society is a great site for Sizzle Chicks. Cassie Rohn is constantly giving out great info on being sexier! Sign up for weekly tips on her site.
-Tracy Pattin
So, here’s what Sexy Living has for this week:
Farrah Fawcett…A True Sizzle Chick
June 25th, 2009Farrah Fawcett died this morning of cancer at age 62. She battled the disease with such bravery and generosity, even sharing her pain with the world in a documentary just six weeks ago, “Farrah’s Story.”
We all remember Farrah as one of Charlie’s Angels, but she didn’t just rely on her great looks to gain success, she became a respected actress, taking on challenging roles like the abused battered wife in “The Burning Bed” and a woman getting revenge on her attempted rapist in “Extremities.” Of course her most challenging role was her last. The one that took her life.
Whenever someone dies too young or tragically, it becomes a reminder how fleeting life is and how we must savor every moment, taking nothing for granted. A great way to honor their passing is to cherish our own life.
Farrah was determined to live her life her way, she was ageless, curious and open to new experiences ready to discover new parts of herself. She was a true Sizzle Chick.
-Tracy Pattin
Tips for Great Skin Over 40 and Beyond
June 21st, 2009Here are some great Sexy Living tips from the Sexy Living Society site. And we Sizzle Chicks are ALL about being sexy over 40 and beyond: Here are 2 of the 4 tips:
Fabulous Foods for the Skin - Part 1:
Salmon - Contains fatty acids to help keep skin moisturized
Yams- Contains vitamin A which protect the skin from environmental damage.
Go to (click here) Sexy Living Society to get the other 2 tips!
-Tracy Pattin
Say YES! (Just Try it)… Tips to an Adventurous, Reinvented Life
June 14th, 2009Sometimes we just have to say YES! without much thought. This past month has been the happiest of my life (and I’m not even in love!). The month before, I was in one of my funks, feeling hopeless, discouraged and lost. As I look back, I realize I said “YES!” over and over and over again. The result? A reinvented life!
Then, I knew I needed to take my own advice and guidance from my upcoming book, “theYES!book, adventurize your life.”
Here’s an excerpt and the advice I took:
What is an adventurous YES! life? Is it to just run around and yell YES into the stratosphere? That’s a good place to start, but that’s not all. It’s changing your mind. Changing your thoughts to possibility. Then making the process a daily habit. Something changes when you start saying YES! New experiences. New friends. New life. The power of YES! is the power of living your life on purpose, deliberately pushing your own envelope and opening it up for as much as you can possibly be. It’s NOT just thinking and feeling, that’s just the warm-up. You have to take action. You have to reach out and connect. Once you do, you start connecting the dots of your new adventurous life.
This past month wasn’t filled with incredible trips to exotic locales, winning the lottery or meeting the man of my dreams. It was filled with events and social gatherings that I went to mostly by myself. Like the LA Entertainment Meetup (click here to read about it) where I met a new friend and colleague who in turn connected me to other new friends and colleagues and events. So, it was that first step, to that meetup gathering, that proved life changing. My new friend and colleague Lisa Greenfield urged me to push my creative envelope and now we create web videos as cross promotion for both our websites. This stepping out and saying YES! has a ripple effect like throwing a pebble in a pond. Who knows where those ripples will lead us?
Recently, I went to The Golden Trailer awards show alone, ran into some people I knew and had a wonderful time. (click here to read about it). Then I went to a birthday party at The Buffalo Club in Santa Monica alone, knowing ONLY the birthday girl. I met a great new friend and had a fabulous time, leaving 2 hours later than I’d planned. Then I went to a barbeque on Sunday knowing only the host. Met more new people and had a blast.
Want to step out? Want to create a little more adventure in your life? Here are some tips:
1. Just do it (yea, I know Nike owns that one. So I’m borrowing the sage advice). Say YES! to an invitation or go to an event, even if you’re a little uncomfortable. It could change your life.
2. Create a customized adventure fitness routine. Look at every day as an adventure, practicing with tiny adventures, like going to a gathering alone.
3. Have an exit strategy (Even if it’s a fake one). Tell the host you can only stay an hour or so, because you’ve got another commitment. That way you give yourself an out, which will make you take the adventure in the first place. You might be surprised and not need it!
4. Keep an adventure journal. (it can act as your personal motivator down the road) Putting pen to paper makes you accountable…to YOURSELF.
Cougars Come to The View
June 12th, 2009Seems the Cougar phenomenon is alive, well and growing by leaps and bounds (and pounces!). Soap Star ( All My Children) Erica Kane (Susan Lucci) and Ryan (Cameron Mathison) paid a visit to The View to talk about their emerging Cougar romance. Although Soaps don’t reveal ages of the characters, we know the ages of the actors. Lucci is 62 (and fabulous!) Mathison is 39.
Lucci said (on The View) that “the term Cougar is degrading. It’s as if I’m a little tramp. Very Mrs. Robinson.” Precisely why Sizzle Chick is a much better name! (click here to read, Cougar vs. Sizzle Chick ).
But the good news is because the spotlight is on “Cougars”, women over 40 and beyond are at the cultural forefront instead of the back burner. Now that we have the floor, we Sizzle Chicks can really make our mark!
-Tracy Pattin
Sizzle Podcast- Tracy Pattin talks to Laurie Hacking about Stepping Into More with Her Wealth Flow For Success
June 10th, 2009
The only woman Bank of America trusted to run a ten million dollar foreign exchange trading room, Laurie Hacking helps you tap into True Wealth by realizing your True Worth, the unique value that sets you apart from the crowd. You then experience greater confidence and creativity. Life is easier with less stress.
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